Over the last few decades, there has been a movement to shield young people from losing. Whether its schools moving toward pass fail grading, youth sports attempting to not keep score or the idea that everyone should get a participation award, this notion is actually hurting children in the long run. Whatever the reason for this trend, teenagers need to experience the hidden blessing of losing.
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, James 1:2.
Losing often serves as a barometer, highlighting deficiencies that you possess. Perhaps, you are not good enough. Maybe, others wanted it more, worked harder than you or are simply more talented. Either way, any type of loses provide life lessons to strengthen your character. Some where between your last defeat and the next competition, time has a way of revealing what led to a loss and what you could do in the future to insure victory.
Because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance, James 1:3.
One year ago, my son James was heart broken after finishing 4th in the state in the pole vault. Six months later, that pain reappeared, missing the medal stand once again by one place at the winter track state meet. However, these loses fueled a desire to not let this happen again. Thus, one week ago James not only reached the summit, winning the state pole vault title, he also led his track team to a state championship. In the disappointment of defeat, individuals will find the hidden blessings of losing.
by Jay Mankus